I used to smoke two packs of cigarettes a day.
I wanted to quit. It’s hard to quit, even though research shows that the physical addiction is gone after several days of non-smoking.
Why do so many smokers go back to smoking after quitting?
Because even though they have given up smoking, they still hold the image of themselves as smokers.
I quit smoking by
becoming a non-smoker first.
I spent months visualizing myself without cigarettes, even though I still smoked. I pictured my life without smoke, without dirty ashtrays, without a cigarette between my fingers, even while I was smoking.
And I adopted the attitudes of a non-smoker. Smoking is awful, it pollutes the air, kissing smokers is like licking an ashtray. The usual stuff.
The problem with most people who quit and still crave cigarettes is that they are still smokers who aren’t smoking. The outer picture may have changed, but they still hold onto the subconscious picture of themselves as smokers. And so they still crave cigarettes.
The Adaptive Unconscious tries to resolve the conflicting pictures by creating the craving.
When I finally quit, I didn’t crave cigarettes because non-smokers don’t crave cigarettes. And I was already a non-smoker.
I worked daily to create a new inner picture, one that ended up being so strong that the outer Reality had to change.
What kind of person are you?
What ways do you picture yourself that hold you back from what you want to be?
There is rarely an easy way to change, and not everything will submit to your efforts.
I know this sounds simplistic. But you have nothing to lose by becoming aware of the processes involved. And trying a few experiments. You might be surprised at how you begin creating your life.
If you have the discipline
and are willing to do the work.